LIFE'S MUSINGS

Hi there! I am Joanna, 16. It has been established that this world is superficial, not just in the case of looks but also when it comes to the heart. People are more willing to portray their good qualities like kindness or compassion. However, what about anxiety, depression and trauma? These are demons which haunt each one of us, and we prefer to keep them locked
away from the eyes of the world out of fear of being judged.

 

Depression has the potential to be a horrible stage in one’s life and what's worse is that so many people face this struggle and choose to keep their problems bottled up till they ultimately succumb to the pressure. A lot of this has to do with the fact that we feel imperfect in terms of our appearance, behaviour and achievements. Social anxiety, one word: dreadful. Believe it or not, some people tend to mask it so well that they could be deemed the finest of extroverts while they actually feel tormented from the inside. What's so bad about hanging out with people anyway? Well, for starters, they are loud,
overly energetic and in many cases a completely open book, not that any of these things are inherently bad. People affected by social anxiety are left utterly disarrayed, drained and reduced to tears. What can we do about it if we face these problems? Struggle our entire lives with them, painstakingly live each day? As mentioned before life is unfair.

 

This unfairness that we face, unknowingly breaks us. I use the ‘cry a river, build a bridge and get over it’ method. But in this method, you actually cry a river. A lot of us tend to skip that part and try to walk over a hastily built bridge. Cry and vent, let the river flow because life is unfair and we can't do anything but try and deal with it, so release those pent up emotions. Build the bridge, because sooner or later you are going to face it, tell yourself that it is going down and prepare yourself mentally, this cannot be done without the former step.

 

A word of caution, when we think about the unfairness of life we only think about ourselves, whilst losing the bigger picture. In the end, the person who
may be at the root of your life’s problems is also going through his or her own struggles. We are all in the same boat.

-Joanna Thomas